Getting your crush to come to a party can seem daunting, but with some strategic planning, it’s totally doable. Convincing your crush to attend a party creates the perfect opportunity to spend more time with them in a fun, relaxed setting.
Follow these steps to create an environment that attracts your crush and makes it easy for them to say “Yes!” to a party invitation.
Step 1: Send a Personalized Invitation
Don’t just post a generic invite to the party on social media. Take the time to invite your crush personally and let them know you’d love for them to be there.
You can invite them in person, over text, on a phone call, or even write them a personalized note. No matter the medium, make sure to:
- Use their name – “James, There’s a party this Friday at 8 PM…”
- Give the important details – Date, time, location, dress code, etc.
- Note that you want THEM there – “It would mean a lot if you could come!”
Knowing the invite is just for them makes it feel special and can go a long way towards convincing them to come.
Step 2: Hype Up the Party
In your invitation and when talking to your crush, really sell how amazing this party is going to be!
Some things you can mention to generate excitement:
- The people who are going
- Whether the party will be casual, relaxed, or lively
- The occasion (birthday party, after-prom party, costume party, etc.)
- The food, drinks, or music
- The fun games and activities
- The entertainment like a band or DJ
- The Pool, hot tub, or other cool amenities
When hyping up your crush to come to a party, pay specific attention to their interests or the things they would be excited to be part of the most. Paint an enticing picture that taps into their interests and gets them amped up to attend.
Step 3: Make It Easy to Say Yes
Once you’ve captured their interest, make it as easy as possible for them to say yes:
Give Plenty of Notice
Don’t spring a last-minute invite on them. Give them at least a week’s notice so they can plan ahead. This is especially true if they will be expected to bring gifts to a birthday party, their own drinks, or take part in a dress code or costume party.
Offer to Pick Them Up
Take the burden of transportation off their plate by offering to drive them to and from the party. It also guarantees one-on-one time with your crush!
Picking them up can make things go a lot smoother, especially when they don’t exactly where it is, who’s hosting, or have not met most of the people who will be there. You arrive together, which can be highly reassuring for your crush.
Invite Them to Join Your Friend Group at The Party
Give your crush a clear invite to your friend group at the party. Letting your crush see that both you and your friends are welcoming and that they won’t be left alone at the party can mean a lot.
So if you make it clear to them that they won’t be alone at the party, but instead will be hanging out with you and your friends. This can dispel their fears of not knowing anybody else attending.
Just be sure to find ways to get your crush’s attention in your friend group, otherwise, you’ll be competing with your friends for your crush’s attention all night.
Suggest a Group Outing Beforehand
Propose meeting up with a group of friends for dinner or drinks before the party.
This can help to break the ice between your crush and your friends and helps ensure they’ve had a chance to talk or get to know each other a little before the party.
Giving them an opportunity to meet your friend group before a party can help them integrate and feel more accepted.
However, just be cautious with this approach if they have a shy, introverted personality type or if one of your friends likes your crush just as much as you do!
Share Who Else is Going
Name-dropping mutual friends or cool people who will be there gets your crush excited about mingling. When there are people attending that your crush is friends with or who have shared interests with your crush. They will be a lot more likely to want to go.
Step 4: Follow Up
After you extend the initial invitation, follow up closer to the event to solidify plans.
Send a text or give them a call a few days before the party:
- Remind them about the party details
- Reiterate how much you want them to be there
- Ask if they need any info or have any questions
- Offer to coordinate rides or pre-game plans
- Share your excitement to see them there!
This shows you care and provides a chance to lock down their RSVP. The last thing you want to hear days before the party is that your crush is backing out because they don’t have enough info.
Step 5: Make Your Move at the Party
Your prep work got them to the party – now it’s time to use this opportunity to get closer to your crush!
Here are some tips for getting closer to your crush at a party:
- Break the Ice – Approach them right away when they arrive to say hi and make them feel comfortable. Offer to get them a drink or introduce them to people.
- Make Small Talk – As the host, you’ll be busy during the party but try to find moments to chat one-on-one. Compliment them and point out things you have in common.
- Go for Quality Time – Suggest activities that allow you to interact more intimately like going outside to get some air, playing a two-person game, or grabbing food together.
- Watch for Cues – If you’re both laughing, standing close, holding eye contact, and finding excuses to touch – these are all good signs they may like you back!
- Request Their Contact – Before they leave, get your crush’s phone number or social media handles if you don’t have them already. Suggest plans to hang out again soon just the two of you.
Convincing your crush to come to a great party hooked their interest – now use that momentum to continue nurturing a connection outside the party!
Final Thoughts
Getting your crush to come to a party and have an amazing time with them doesn’t have to be an impossible feat. With thoughtful planning, strategic invites, and creating the right party vibe, you can convince your crush to attend.
Make sure to give them plenty of notice, build up the event, facilitate easy logistics, and follow up. Then interact throughout the party, break the ice, find moments to connect one-on-one, and watch for signals they may be into you.
End the night by suggesting future hangouts. The party can serve as the jumping-off point to spark a real relationship outside the fun of the event.
So be bold and go after what you want! With the right strategy, you can get your crush to be by your side at the next epic party!