Spending quality one-on-one time with your crush is the best way to get closer, find out if you’re compatible, and maybe even start a relationship.
So how do you make that happen naturally without being too pushy or obvious?
The best way to spend more one-on-one time with your crush is to initiate activities together and find common interests. You can try things like asking them to join your study session, attend a party with you, or even ask if they need a ride home. Sharing activities, hobbies or interests is the perfect excuse to get to know your crush.
Here are some tips for subtly but effectively spending more solo time with your crush:
How to Spend More One-On-One Time with Your Crush
1. Initiate Study Sessions
If you share any classes or academic interests, suggest meeting up to study together. Offer to help each other prep for upcoming tests or work on projects.
Studying solo can be boring and unproductive, so they’ll probably appreciate the company – plus it’s a great excuse to chat and flirt in between hitting the books!
To keep things focused yet fun, change up the location by studying at a cafe, park, or one of your homes. Bring snacks to share and make sure to take some breaks to just talk and enjoy each other’s company too.
2. Volunteer Together
Find out what causes or communities your crush is passionate about, then suggest volunteering together. Giving back is a rewarding activity that brings people closer together.
Whether you help out at an animal shelter, participate in a beach cleanup, or assist at a charity event, you’ll bond while supporting something good.
Make a day of it by getting lunch or coffee after. Discuss how amazing it felt to help others and what you both got out of the experience. You’ll admire each other’s dedication and compassion.
3. Attend Campus Events and Activities
Scan your school or college’s event calendar and social media pages for interesting things to do – then invite your crush to attend together.
This could include guest lectures, art shows, sports games, plays, or music events. Experiencing something fun and different together is a great bonding opportunity.
Arrive early together so you have time to chat and get your crush’s full attention while waiting for the activity to start.
During the event, point out things you think the other would find noteworthy or entertaining. After, grab a bite and discuss your favorite parts.
4. Go for a Hike or Outdoor Activity
If you both enjoy the outdoors, suggest going on a hike, bike ride, beach trip, or other active excursion together. Getting out in nature can be romantic and provides gorgeous scenery.
Bring a camera to snap pics of each other with beautiful backdrops. Pack a picnic lunch or snacks to enjoy at the summit. Lay out a blanket so you can sit and chat while taking in the lovely views.
This creates the perfect peaceful moment to open up to each other.
5. Attend Parties Together
If you know your crush will be at a mutual friend’s party or social event, offer to go together as each other’s plus-ones. You can meet up beforehand to get ready and hype each other up on the way there.
[Read: How Do I Attract My Crush to A Party?]
Having a ready-made date makes mingling less intimidating. It also gives you an easy excuse to initiate a one-on-one conversation with a crush at parties.
At the party, introduce your crush to friends you think they’d hit it off with. But keep it casual, and be careful if your friends have feelings for your crush as well.
Check-in often and dance together to break the ice physically. If anyone presumes you’re a couple, just smile without correcting them – your crush will get the hint!
6. Organize a Group Hang Out
Invite your crush to a group outing with your shared friends – like going to the movies, grabbing dinner, or visiting a popular local spot.
It takes the pressure off without sacrificing one-on-one time. You can strategically sit together during the movie or meal.
Afterward, casually ask if your crush would like to hang back to chat just the two of you while everyone else heads home. They’ll appreciate the thoughtful gesture and getting to know you better solo.
7. Offer Your Crush a Ride
If logistics line up, offer to drive your crush home from school or a mutual friend’s place. Those few minutes alone in your car create a comfortable space to talk and listen to music together.
Keep the conversation with your crush light by asking about their day, interests, or funny anecdotes. Resist the urge to overly vent about your own dramas. End by mentioning you’d love to give them a ride anytime. They’ll feel cared for.
8. Grab Quick Bites
Suggest meeting up for a quick casual bite to eat either on campus or around town. This could include grabbing dessert together, a drink at a coffee shop, or even just vending machine snacks while studying. Those brief moments chatting over food or beverages mean a lot.
Bring up fun “would you rather?” scenarios and exchange childhood stories to get to know each other better. Offer to swap favorite playlists or Spotify usernames so you can share music interests too.
9. Attend Church or Religious Services
If you and your crush belong to the same religious organization or place of worship, make attending services together a regular thing. Sit side by side and carpool so you get extra time to talk.
After the service ends, linger to mingle instead of rushing off. Compliment your crush on an insightful point they made during the discussion. Suggest grabbing food after to further chat about your interests.
10. Meet Up Between Classes
Scan your crush’s class schedule to see if you have any gaps between lectures in the same area. Then, casually invite them to meet up for a quick break when your schedules overlap.
Use the 10-15 minutes together wisely by asking how their day is going, venting about schoolwork, or showing them a funny TikTok. Offer to walk them to their next class so you have even more time to chat.
11. Connect Via Social Media
Subtly ask for your crush’s social media, or use your existing social media connection to initiate more one-on-one virtual interactions.
Comment with emojis and inside jokes on their posts, send them direct links to funny videos or articles, and reply to their Stories.
Gradually increase the flirtation and frequency. If they reciprocate and actively engage back, take it to the next level by exchanging phone numbers or DMing them so you can chat privately.
12. Ask for Homework Help
If there’s a subject you know your crush excels at, ask them to tutor you or explain a difficult homework concept. Compliment their intellect and patience. Offer to return the favor by helping with one of their weaker areas.
Schedule study sessions leading up to big tests or project deadlines. Use it as quality time to banter, exchange silly memes, or bare your souls a bit. They’ll feel trusted and valued.
13. Take a Virtual Class Together
Even if your in-person schedules conflict, you can still connect online by taking a virtual class together. Choose something fun like learning a new language, skill, or hobby – pottery, embroidery, photography, mixology, or even TikTok dancing!
Video chat while you take the class to make silly jokes and cheer each other on. After class, grab food and reflect on what you learned. If things go well, put those new skills to work on an in-person date idea.
How Can I Tell If My Crush Wants to Spend Time With Me Too?
When you have a crush, it can be hard to decipher their true feelings. You don’t want to misread simple politeness or friendship as a romantic interest. So how do you know if someone really wants to spend one-on-one time with you?
Here are some subtle signs to look for:
- They initiate conversations and find reasons to chat with you frequently. This shows they seek you out.
- They respond positively when you suggest hanging out and make an effort to make plans.
- They remember small details about you and your life that you’ve mentioned in conversation. It means they’re paying close attention.
- They laugh at your jokes and seem engaged when you tell stories or express opinions.
- They hold eye contact for longer periods when conversing with you.
- They ask questions about your interests, family, and goals to get to know you better.
- They find playful excuses to have physical contact like high fives, shoulder touches, or hugs.
- They get shy or extra smiley around you compared to others.
- They get visibly excited when you walk into a room or run into each other on campus.
- Mutual friends mention your crush has asked about you or talked about their time with you.
The more signs above that apply, the stronger the chance your feelings may be reciprocated!
Keep observing their behavior and interactions with you over time. If in doubt, test the waters by suggesting a one-on-one study session or coffee date.
Their reaction will reveal if they want to turn all that casual flirting into real quality time together.
What If My Crush Seems Distracted When We Hang Out Alone?
You finally scored some solo hangout time with your crush – but now they seem fidgety, distracted, or awkwardly quiet. It’s normal to feel a little hurt or confused when your crush doesn’t seem fully engaged.
Here are some productive ways to handle it:
- Don’t take it personally! They likely feel shy and nervous just like you. Give them time to warm up.
- Suggest a specific activity to break the ice. Playing a game, taking a walk, or watching a show can take the pressure off needing to make constant conversation.
- Share funny memes, TikToks, or clever observations to lighten the mood. Laughter is the best icebreaker.
- If they mention problems in their life, be a good listener. Your support may help them open up.
- Offer a small, sincere compliment about their character or accomplishments to boost their confidence.
- Ask light, open-ended questions about their hobbies and passions. Finding common ground gets dialogue flowing.
- Don’t gossip or dump emotional baggage. Keep things upbeat.
- Occasional silence is OK! Overthinking it can just cause more awkwardness.
- Focus on having fun together, not expecting romance. Lower stakes lead to a more authentic connection.
With patience and compassion, your crush’s guard will come down. In time, the conversation and chemistry will start flowing naturally.
Don’t get discouraged – if your crush seems shy it likely has nothing to do with what you are doing, but their own feelings. Continue showing genuine interest and you’ll get to know their true vibrant self!
My Journey From Awkward Crush to Quality Couple Time: A Success Story
We recently received a wonderful success story from Sarah Williams on Facebook, a LuvFancy.com reader who had a lengthy crush on a guy in her senior year.
Sarah was kind enough to let us share her personal story to help others. It describes in vivid detail how she strategically earned more one-on-one hangout time with her crush, which allowed their connection to blossom into a fully-fledged relationship.
Sarah’s first-hand experience is filled with creative ideas, flirtatious moments, and thoughtful gestures that led her crush to confess his mutual feelings.
I still remember my huge, heart-pounding crush on a guy in senior year. We had English lit together and I was hooked the minute he turned around, flashed that dimpled smile, and offered me a spare highlighter when mine ran out of ink. Smooth move!
At first, our encounters were limited to casual class chitchat. I was too chicken to make a real move. But then I decided to employ some of the tips a close friend gave me after venting about my crush.
I started by asking him to study together the week before our big essay. He seemed surprised but totally game. We met at the library and I brought us both snacks to break the ice.
Soon we were chatting about books, debating essay approaches, and getting distracted laughing hysterically at memes I had saved on my phone just to impress him. Score!
After that week of continued study sessions together, I looked for more ways to bond one-on-one.
- I invited him to the campus screening of an old movie I forget the name of, but I knew he was psyched for it.
- I organized a group beach hangout on the weekend with other classmates just so we’d have an excuse to flirt in a relaxed setting.
- And I started offering him rides home (as he caught a bus) so we could have yet another excuse for some 1-on-1 time, even if it was only 15 minutes.
The quality time flowed naturally once I set the stage and made some effort. Before I knew it, we were texting nonstop, saving each other seats in the dining hall, and sneaking away from friends together for aimless long walks.
He finally confessed his feelings on one such romantic stroll, and we began dating, and got into a long term relationship shortly after!
So from my experience, all it takes is a few thoughtful gestures tailored to your crush’s interests or needs. If you show you “get” them, the one-on-one moments will happen.
Just be confident, creative, and let things progress down their natural path toward romance, try your best not to force it or be to pushy!
Sarah Williams
Sarah’s journey proves that with some courage and planning, you can turn casual encounters with your crush into meaningful quality time. Perhaps even more if your crush is receptive and reciprocates.
Final Thoughts
Nurturing a new connection with a crush takes effort – but it’s well worth it! Use small opportunities in your daily lives to interact more one-on-one. Get creative with activities, social media outreach, and excuses to chat more.
In time, all those little moments will add up to a deeper bond and pave the way for romance. The key is showing you care while respecting their boundaries. Make them feel interesting, understood, and valued.
If it’s meant to be, your crush will quickly start reciprocating interest and making their own moves to spend time together too. Enjoy getting to know someone new – those giddy butterfly feelings are the best part of romance!
Key Takeaways:
- Initiate study sessions together to blend academic and personal time. Offer to tutor each other!
- Volunteer for a cause you both care about. The shared experience will bring you closer.
- Attend campus events, games, and activities to bond over new experiences.
- Plan outdoor activities like hiking or biking to connect with nature.
- Attend parties together and introduce each other to friends. Dance together!
- Organize a group hang out and find moments for one-on-one time.
- Offer them rides to chat privately during drives.
- Meet up between classes for quick bites or breaks. Make the most of small windows of time.
- Connect via social media by commenting on posts and sending direct links.
- Ask them to tutor you in a subject they ace so you can spend time learning together.
- Take a fun virtual class together like pottery or photography. Video chat during it!
- Show you care in small ways and the one-on-one moments will add up naturally.
