The pressure of making a good first impression on dates is not only felt by men but women too. What common and harmless white lies do many women often tell on first dates?
Everyone knows just how nerve-wracking first dates can truly be. We really want to try our best to make a great first impression, which can sometimes lead to our nerves and anxiety getting the better of us.
On first dates due to all the pressure and awkwardness, it’s really not uncommon to start telling little white lies to help subtly manipulate your date’s picture of you and your life. While mostly harmless, it’s purely based on your judgment or the situation you find yourself in.
Telling small lies and not being entirely truthful is something both men and women can be equally guilty of doing on first dates. For women, these lies all revolve around the things they think men might be wanting to hear.
It’s important to know that if you do happen to continue dating after, or the first date happens to evolve into a relationship. These lies may become more apparent. As the saying goes “truth will out”.
Knowing that someday your lies may reach the light of day is important. Some men might find these efforts to lie endearing or cute. While other guys might treat it as a bit of a red flag that you are dishonest and not being entirely truthful with him.
Be cautious or careful if you find yourself guilty of telling some of these little lies. Every man has different tastes and will treat them all differently if they find out the truth.
Here’s some examples of the most common lies women tell on first dates.
1. I’m Really Not That Hungry.
Are you sure you’re not hungry? One of the most common lies women tell men on first dates, especially if going to a restaurant or bite to eat is that they are not hungry or have a tiny appetite.
You might be starving, but you don’t want the guy to know that. This is because many women commonly believe men like them to be demure or dainty when it comes to ordering food on a first date.
While this is likely not true and entirely up for debate! Women will often avoid ordering a large plate at all costs.
It probably also doesn’t help that you don’t want to order a big meal that’s hard or messy to eat. You’ve got your table manners at the forefront of your mind.
Either that or you feel like there is nothing worse than feeling full in your favorite skintight dress. So lying about not being hungry feels like a necessity!
2. I Don’t Think I’ve Ever Been Drunk Before.
We’ve all likely had those nights where alcohol got the best of us or had one cosmo too many, but there’s no reason to tell him that on a first date!
It’s commonly believed most guys want to date a girl who shows she can be pretty considered when it comes to drinking & partying. A girl that’s fun-loving but not at the risk of losing control.
[Read: How To Settle Your Nerves Before A First Date?]
Lies about drinking or masking the fact you’re a bit of a party animal are pretty common and have their reasons. Besides, you don’t want the man you are dating to think he can ply you with alcohol all night in order to get lucky…
3. I’ve Only Recently Become Active In The Dating World.
It might be a lie but he doesn’t know that! Saying you’ve only just started looking for love online is a common lie many women tell and for a few reasons also.
This particular lie has a few key effects for both you and him. It makes him feel pretty special to believe he’s one of the first guys you’ve chosen to go on a date with. All while hiding the fact you might actually still be talking or arranging dates with other guys in the meantime and playing the field. As you are not attached at the hip just yet.
This lie is designed and delivered to spare his feelings. The last thing you want on a first date is the guy feeling threatened or in competition for your affections. That’s a lot of pressure to put someone under.
Just don’t fall into the common trap of continuing this lie beyond the point of no return. If you sense you or him are becoming emotionally invested, use your judgment. Don’t play games with someone’s heart.
4. My Cooking Skills Are Legendary.
Many women will often lie about their cooking skills or culinary prowess on first dates. Especially if the guy says he’s a really big ‘foodie’ and loves cooking up a storm himself.
You might know some of the basics, but your cooking skills are worlds away from anything seen on master chef.
It’s a common belief that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Saying you are gonna cook him your world-famous lasagne, or bake him a personalized cake is one thing. But can you back it up in the kitchen when it comes time to deliver?
It might be time to take some cooking classes if things really start to progress with him! Forget the lobster, this lie might have put you in hot water.
5. I Love The Outdoors!
We all have our own idea of what loving the outdoors truly means. To some it’s like saying I love going for long walks through the countryside for the day and to others, it means week-long camping trips, hiking up hills and mountains and some serious outdoorsy activities.
If he says on a first date he loves all these things then you are bound to feel awkward if you don’t and possibly lie. You want to be seen as an active and adventurous kind of girl who’s up for anything.
However, the fact is you hate mud, bugs, and all things in between! The common belief remains though that many men do find girls who love the outdoors lifestyle attractive.
6. It Only Takes Me Minutes To Get Ready.
It might take you hours to get ready, but you don’t want your date to know that right away! Many women will often tell harmless lies about how long it really takes them to get ready before going out.
The simple fact is, women know most men don’t like to be kept waiting around while they apply makeup or find the perfect outfit to wear. Especially if it only takes the man a few minutes to get ready.
[Read: Red Flags To Look Out For When You’re Starting To Date]
It’s an attempt to impress the man and also deflect any judgment he might have about your tardiness. So it always seems better to downplay the slow preparations or any delays in decision making you might have about what outfit to wear.
7. I Don’t Really Pay Much Attention To My Diet.
Every girl has at some point in their life paid some attention to their diet. Whether this is for overall health and well-being, or the realization you can’t always eat anything you like without there being consequences later.
We all care about how we look and want to look our best, but quite often we will tell little lies about the effort or determination needed to get there.
This is especially true for women on first dates. If they are obsessed with some new diet or are actively watching their figure. They might play it nonchalantly with the man and perhaps tell them lies about how much they care about the food they eat and fitness regime.
Some women do believe openly discussing diets, fitness, or being overly critical about what you eat on first dates can make you come across as insecure or overly self-conscious. Which can also be considered a pretty undesirable trait for any man to see.
While not exactly true, and some men actually finding it indearing or good to see you taking control. Lots of women will still choose to hide it. She likely cares a lot more than she is letting on.
8. I’m A Bookworm At Heart.
Claiming to be an avid bookworm on first dates, even though you’re not is also a pretty common lie numerous women choose to tell. Most women believe saying that you regularly read books is similar to a hidden way of stating ‘I’m pretty cultured and intelligent’. This is similar to a lot of men also!
This lie can rise to the surface more frequently on first dates when the man is pretty cultured or an avid book reader himself. You might scramble for an idea to suggest you’re just as cultured as him but stick firmly on the lie that you often read books too!
The fact is, while this is a pretty harmless lie to tell and probably masks the fact you don’t have the time to actually sit down and read. It becomes hard to sell it when the guy starts asking for the exact titles of the books you love…
9. My Parents Are Pretty Laid Back.
Everyone’s parents are different and they all have a different approach to parenting or how they go about being protective of their children no matter how old they are.
However, if on the first date with a guy you tell him your parents are laid back when they’re really not. Then this is obviously a lie, especially if while on the date your getting messages from them constantly asking if you’re safe, or what this guy is like!
Women will often lie to put their date at ease. They know the last thing a guy wants to hear when looking for love is that their potential love interests parents will go over him and his life history with a fine-tooth comb.
So lying about your overly critical parents and their habits of interfering in your love life probably seem justified to most women with parents like these on first dates. Despite the fact, the guy is in for a shock later if things happen to progress.
10. Your Dating Profile Really Stood Out To Me!
This is a nice gesture to make if it has really got some truth behind it. But the fact is for most women this would be a subtle lie they often tell to make the guy they are dating feel special.
Online dating, while seriously popular can be a pretty hard place to stand-out or make a good first impression with text & images alone. He might have caught your eye, but he may not have been the only one you’ve been matching with or getting to know.
[Read: 10 Things You Should Never Say On A First Date]
No guy wants to hear that you also liked other guys profiles, or talked to a few guys before getting back to him. So it’s much easier to mask the truth and say your focus was firmly fixed on him and his dating profile.
11. I’ve Never Been Here Before.
Planning a first date takes a lot of effort from you both, so it’s not surprising that the place you suggest to meet or go for a bite to eat might be somewhere you are already familiar with. It could be your local haunt or the only place in town that does the food you like.
It becomes a lie though when you openly say you’ve never been there before to your date. They might be getting hyped up thinking you’ve never been before and look forward to experiencing something new with you when in reality you’ve already been. You might have even been on a first date with someone else here already!
In an effort to stop yourself from quashing their excitement you tell a harmless lie. Just be careful it doesn’t become more apparent when you know exactly where the restroom is, or one of the staff recognizes you from last time!
12. My Friends Are Gonna Love You!
Telling a guy on a first date that you can’t wait for him to meet your friends, and that they are gonna love him could be true. But you have no way of truly knowing that!
Close friends just like family can do a pretty good job of being overprotective of you or judging the new people in your life. So telling your new love interest that your friends will love him could in fact turn into a lie further down the road.
Perhaps there is something about him on the first date that you can’t see that your friends will pick up on. Or he’s subtly showing you some of the red flags for dating and relationships that should be avoided in your friend’s opinions.
There is no way to genuinely know how your friends will feel about him unless things progress, so it’s probably best to leave their potential opinions out of the equation and simply form your own for the time being. As after all, these will be the most valuable moving forward.
13. I Love That Too!
One of the most common lies women can often be guilty of telling on first dates is that they love everything their date loves too!
There are a lot of reasons someone would choose to lie about liking or loving their dates interests and hobbies as well. For women, it’s often used as a way to swing their dates view of possible their possible compatibility in their favor.
The last thing you want is the man you are dating to think your not open to or even interested in most of the things he likes. You often believe your aim is to say the things he is wanting to hear. Whether this is saying you also love his favorite band, or enjoy hiking when in reality you really don’t.
Opposites can attract, its a real thing. You don’t have to like all the things he does, that’s what makes dating so interesting. So knowing this going into first dates will likely put you under less pressure trying to be the perfect match for him. Fix your focus on being yourself!
Conclusion
The simple fact is, everyone lies! Whether these are harmless lies to tell or not will fully depend on the intentions of the person saying them.
First dates will always be a nerve-wracking experience full of anxiety and uncertainty. This alone can make you do many things you wouldn’t normally do out of character and telling harmless lies is one of them.
If you catch yourself speaking half-truths or sugar-coating the truth with small lies. It’s normally best just to come clean. One of the big reasons first dates never lead onto second dates is because the person you are dating is starting to read between the lines.
Just try to be genuine, be yourself, and bare openly all the things your date is wanting to know about the real you. They are looking for ‘certainty’ from you in what you are saying to them. So reveal your personality, characteristics, and story in a way that is truthful.